Positive Thinking (… a hole-in-one for Kieren!)

I read somewhere that the game of ‘Golf’ should be called ‘Life’. It condenses all of life’s ups, downs and lessons, into a few metres and a couple of hours. You can go through all the emotions, joy, misery, laughter, frustration, love and hate, all in a very short period of time. 🙂

A few years ago I was sharing a game of golf with some friends.  Through one simple comment, the game was transformed, from a frustrating experience to a very enjoyable and memorable one.

~ Kieren, more of a beginner than us other beginners, was having a frustrating time. To him, each time he hit the ball it landed in a worse position. The only thing moving in a straight line was his score, in an upwards direction, very quickly!

To make matters worse, he was playing with three semi-professional hackers who were only too willing to share a wealth of experience and mind-boggling array of clichés.

‘… don’t lift your head … ‘     ‘…let your club do the work…’

This advice, although probably quite sound in the right situation, only served to make Kieren more confused and frustrated. The saying, ‘it’s hard to see the other side of the river when you are up to your neck in crocodiles’, was very applicable in this situation.

After playing my shot I wandered over to find him pounding the ground with his club, saying,  “I can’t do this,  I’m a useless golfer!”

Having just completed my teacher training, I had newly acquired skills in dealing with situations involving self-esteem and confidence. (… so I thought!)

I said, “Kieren you can do it, be positive!

He immediately replied, “You’re  right Alan, I’m positive that I’m a useless golfer”.

He made me chuckle!


Always a hacker, I had some interesting times playing golf. I don’t remember ever getting a gross score of less than 45 for 9 holes. Although, I did get two, very lucky and joyous, hole-in-ones, within 6 month of each other. That was a long time ago.

I don’t play golf these days. Over the past 20 years or more  I have been enjoying my ‘open-water’ and ‘lap’ swimming. The sport may have changed but there is still a wealth of experience and mind-boggling array of clichés with which to harass fellow devotees with….

‘…lift your elbow…’      ‘… don’t over reach … ‘


Life’s a journey, travel light, (Hugo Boss jeans TV commercial), and above all else; enjoy!


Alan Friday



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